Theme

Jealous

(Available free with and many other themes in the Thinkladder App).

Getting jealous from time to time is a part of the normal range of human emotions. It could be that twinge of envy when others get invited to an event we didn’t, or that feeling of longing looking at our friend’s glorious vacation pics. However, jealousy can go a bit further than this. We might be obsessing over things others have that we don’t. Or we could find ourselves consumed by what our loved ones are doing when we’re not around. Jealousy is worth addressing if we find it taking up an unhealthy amount of space in our lives.

The good news is that we don’t have to stay wallowing in a cesspit of envy! We can start our journey into emotional freedom by reflecting on the limiting beliefs that are feeding our feelings of jealousy. These might be something like, ‘If someone else has something I don’t, it means I’m missing out in some way,’ or, ‘I need to know what my partner is doing at all times to feel secure in our relationship’. Once we’ve identified these beliefs, we can go about challenging them. We can work to replace them with beliefs that better serve our inner peace.

If jealousy is impacting your well-being more than you’d like, then take some time looking through the ‘Jealous’ theme in the Thinkladder app. Get started on your journey of greater contentment and peace.

Insights from the ‘Jealousy’ Theme

Celebrating others’ good fortune, even if I feel jealous, reminds me of the kind of person I want to be.
There is enough love, success, and abundance to go around – I don’t need to feel jealous or envious of others, because I can create my own.
Cultivating gratitude and inner security is weakening the power that jealousy holds over me.
Choosing to trust my partner is allowing our relationship to breathe and building a foundation of health and mutual respect.
Jealousy is often the feeling that sits on top of other deeper feelings, like fear of not being good enough, abandonment, or past betrayals; getting to the root of this jealousy will allow me to heal and be free of its grip.

Practical tips for navigating jealousy:

Tips for if you are concerned about jealousy:

Proactive preparation: Does a specific situation or circumstance tend to trigger feelings of jealousy? Pinpointing the trigger can help you anticipate feelings of jealousy. Preparing your mind can help you manage these feelings when they arise.

Healthy communication is key: If your jealousy is related to relationships, it may be helpful to communicate with your partner or loved ones in a non-accusatory manner. Taking this time to invite mutual understanding can also create space for reassurance and a sense of safety.

Set boundaries: Establish clear and healthy boundaries for yourself. This includes respecting the boundaries of others. Having a sense of personal space and respecting the privacy of others may help to reduce potential feelings of jealousy.

Target the underlying source: There may be other emotions and thoughts beneath the surface of jealous feelings, like fears or past memories. Thinkladder’s framework can assist you in examining the limiting beliefs may lie beneath jealousy. With curiosity and self-compassion, exploring your deeper beliefs can open up a new path of self-awareness and growth.

Don’t forget the basics

Practise gratitude: Shifting your focus from what you lack to what you have can quickly dissolve feelings of jealousy. Gratitude can feel intimidating at first, but there are many resources available. Thinkladder’s Gratitude Practice in our mobile app is one way to begin learning to authentically express gratitude.

Build self-confidence: Feelings of inadequacy or low self-esteem can contribute to jealousy. Investing in personal growth, self-awareness and self-empowerment can build self-confidence. A strong sense of self-worth and finding joy in living your own life are antidotes to jealous feelings.

Practise self-compassion: Try not to shame yourself for feeling jealous. Instead, observe it with a sense of curiosity and self-compassion.

Seek support: If jealousy becomes overwhelming, consider seeking support. Talking about your feelings with someone you trust can provide valuable insights and emotional support.