Theme

Comparing Myself To Others

(Available free with and many other themes in the Thinkladder App).

It’s pretty much impossible to NOT compare ourselves to other people. Whether we’d like to admit it or not, it’s a natural way of placing ourselves and others in the world. Comparison doesn’t have to call into question our worth and value. But what about when our tendency to compare begins to sap our energy and steal our joy?

The good news is that we can change.

We can start by identify the limiting beliefs fuelling our thoughts of comparison. These limiting beliefs might be something like, ‘Comparing myself to others is the best way to know how I am doing,’ or ‘If I can be as good as others, I will be noticed.’ Once we have identified these beliefs, we then have the power to replace them with other, more life-giving ideas. 

Over time, our new beliefs become the norm, and our tendency to compare begins to wane. If comparing yourself to others is impacting your well-being, take a look at the ‘Comparing Myself to Others’ theme in the Thinkladder App.

Insights from the ‘Comparing Myself to Others’ Theme

I am relinquishing comparison and choosing gratitude.
Other people’s strengths and achievements have no bearing whatsoever on the value or significance of my own.
I am unique, which by definition means I cannot be compared to others.
As I become more grounded in my innate value and worth, comparison will become a game I am no longer tempted to play.
When I am consumed by a life that is meaningful, fulfilling, and connected, comparing myself to others doesn’t even cross my mind.

Practical tips to stop comparing and start living:

Focus on your journey: Everyone has their own story, and it’s unfair to compare your progress to someone else’s. Instead, focus on your personal goals and aspirations, and work towards them at your own pace.

Tune in to positive influences: Surround yourself with people who support and uplift you.

Celebrate your achievements: No matter how small they may seem, take time to celebrate your achievements. Doing so will help you build confidence and feel more positive about your abilities.

Limit social media consumption: Social media can be a breeding ground for comparison. Try to limit your time on social media (or take a break from it altogether). If you must use social media, follow people who inspire you rather than those who make you feel inferior.

Practise gratitude: Take time to intentionally focus on the things you are grateful for in your life. This science-backed practice stimulates feel-good hormones and shifts your headspace for the better.

Be kind to yourself: Remember that you are your own worst critic. Try to be kind to yourself and treat yourself with the same compassion and empathy that you would offer to a friend.

Seek professional help: If you’re struggling with feelings of inadequacy or low self-esteem, consider seeking professional help. A therapist or counsellor can help you work through these issues and develop a healthier self-image.

Use Thinkladder: Comparison is often fuelled by subconscious unhelpful beliefs. Thinkladder can help you to track down these limiting beliefs, and replace them with empowering insights.

If comparing yourself to others is impacting your well-being, take a look at the ‘Comparing Myself to Others’ theme in the Thinkladder App.